Cognitive Behavioral Therapy techniques are based on the concept that people are not necessarily the victims of what happens to them, and their circumstances, but they are reliant on how they respond to things that happen.
Events and situations happen to us all the time that trigger thoughts, feelings, actions and responses. But the way we respond and react is very much dependent on us, our mental state, how good or bad we feel about ourselves.
The point is that we don't necessarily have to be the victim of what happens to us and the pressures that are applied.
Take the example of someone who walks past you without saying hello or even acknowledging you. There are many possible reasons for this:
So that same event and your understanding of what happened and why has been colored by your interpretation and the way you fill in the gaps for hidden reasons that may be fictitious
Your response to all of these may be the same – you feel hurt and rejected. But this may be unreasonable and irrational because you have jumped to the wrong conclusions and chosen the worst possible outcome in terms of the way you feel. Why have you reacted in this way? It does not have to be this way. You are dealing with a set of unknowns. What if you put a positive spin on things and stopped having negative thoughts.
This is the essence of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, which is about changing the way you think, if you tend to be negative.
There are a set of classic negative errors thinking style that can affect your mood and self respect:
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is designed to help people break out of the set-backs caused by emotional reasoning. Essentially this means replacing true facts and missing facts and reasons with ‘how you feel’. It teaches people how to try to replace negative thinking styles with more positive and more realistic ones.
Many psychologists believe that these thinking pattern are a habit caused by negative reinforcement.
For example, some people are afraid of spiders. They do everything they can to avoid them. This reduces the risk but increases the fear and does not deal with the problem. Graded exposure has been shown to be very successful with helping people to cope with phobias, rather than reinforcing them. Gradually exposing people to spiders can be very successful in retraining people’s fear of spiders so that they realise that the fear is unfounded. People can retrain their emotions and negative feelings so that they are less fearful of spiders and can live ‘normal lives’.
Various research studies have shown that Cognitive Behavioral Therapies are at least as effective as medication, but avoid the side effects and dependencies. However they don’t suit everyone.